Dee said...

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Oh thanks :D that made my day.. ahaha and all my friends who does exactly the same

11:40 PM  

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After reading John's blog on "It's a Never ending story".
It lead me into a discussion with 2 friends of mine, one female, and the other male in relation to messages that females can send off to other people by the choices of the outfit they choose to wear.
Apparently, when a female wears revealing pieces of clothing, she's "asking for it" (this came from a male's perspective). So what do they consider as "revealing" clothing? According to my male friend, its the exposure of any combination of legs, cleavage, stomach, back.
After hearing this, my girlfriend was rather offended, as only a week ago she went out clubbing in shorts and a reasonable low cut top. So that's legs and cleavage, but that doesn't mean she's asking for it.

While our male buddy isn't quite convinced, I then started to explain to him that many women dress in certain ways to feel good, confident and dare I say it...to feel sexy. When we dress up, we don't dress up deliberately just so we can attract attention. Do some men honestly think that all women dress in certain ways just so that some guys can talk to our breasts? Of course not!

I've spoken to all these different guy friends in regards to what they see in girls... they all came up with different responses - legs, body, hips, face, ass, breast and so forth. There are those who think that its tarty if a female shows off too much skin, yet, its also those who want to see women in less clothing. I don't get it.

The debate of sexy VS slutty has became such a strong topic of conversations, whether you're talking about it while adjusting yourself in the women's bathroom or you've just spoted a camel toe, laughted at it ridiculously for several minutes with your mates yet still wanting to root its owner - the commencement of placing the fault of particular unwanted attention on women who dress seductively, is seriously misplaced.
Of course there are many cases of women showing too much skin, but in certain situations and locations, provocative dressing is not a walking invitation.
Going down the road for some milk in a backless top may be a bit over the board but a similar outfit at a club should not be analysed so deeply - mostly because it can get pretty hot in there!

While my male friend may seem to believe that the 'asking for it' style of dressing takes a miniature amount of time to achieve, I'm sure almost every women can agree with me that he just doesn't know what his talking about.
It's not like this lack of consideration and time put aside for dressing should be an issue but regardless if my male friend thinks that specific modes of dressing will provoke the "I look like a tart so treat me like one" attitude, he, along with other men, will try to pick her up anyway!

Now to another point, though there are many women who love their bodies and want to feel good by wearing a mini skirt, sometimes feeling confident doesn't need to result in revealing clothing. A girl on the bus wearing a knee length skirt and a long shirt, many not seem to be sexy, but underneath that skirt may be a pair of gorgeous French knickers or an Elle Mcpherson bra underneath that shirt.
The fact that she's wearing something so appealing, yet unaware by many observers gives her that boost of confidence and that extra swing in her walk.

So feeling good about oneself, shouldn't be seen as a crime. Unnecessary exposure of skin may generate a bit of a heated discussion, but in moderation, and at the appropriate place, 'mischievous' dressing can be sexy.
A girl walking out her door in fish net stockings does not mean she's asking for it. A girl in a low cut top down at the bar may have a cleavage you want to bury your hands in, but it doesn't mean she wants it in there.
So not everything is depicted through the type of clothing a person wears - and I'm sure many will agree with me.
Please understand I'm not here to judge anything but just reflecting some thoughts that alot of people tend to misunderstand.